3-4 Options

Written By Dino Gomez

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Hey, guys, Dino Gomez here, and you are listening to the Secrets of Coaching podcast where we break down the nuances of growing a seven figure online coaching business. And we are about to get started in three, two, one.

In today’s episode, we’re going to talk about the fact there is always three to four other options out there for you. Did you know that there are three to four options out there for you right now to solve whatever problem is going on in your life or in your business? Let’s get into this one, guys. This one’s going to be juicy. Did you know there’s always about three to four other options that exist for you to solve your problems in life or in business? Guys, we’re going to get a little bit deeper, a little bit of juice on this one.

All right. What are some examples I can pull out here? Let’s just say your car breaks down on the freeway, all right? And you pull on over you’re on the shoulder and you pull out your triple A card. You’re like, okay, I’m going to call AAA. They’ll come to fix my flat tire and you call them, and for whatever reason, they’re not answering your call and you’re sitting there and all of a sudden, in a moment of panic, you’re like, oh, crap is not available. I’ve called them five times.

They’re not answering. I forgot today is a holiday and they don’t work holidays. So now I’m just screwed, right? You can sit there in a moment and be frustrated and anxious and upset and sad and all the different things and or you can implement this. You can implement what is I call the 34 rule 34 rule means there’s always three to four other options that exist. You just need to spend some time thinking to come up with those other options. So what are some other options you’d have in this example?

You could call a friend. You could call the local car shop and see if they have a tow truck or if they can come out to you, you can call a family member. You can. There’s so many different people you could call. There’s a very basic example just off the top of my head. But the same is true inside of your business, inside of your life, inside of your relationships, inside of everything. I was watching a Tony Robbins seminar recently, and this guy was talking about, oh, my gosh my wife wants a divorce, and he’s like, what do I do? And Tony Robbins asked him a bunch of questions, and he’s like, I don’t get it. She wants to remain together, but she still wants the divorce to go through. And he’s like, no, this isn’t cool. I don’t know. He’s very upset. Tony Robbins is like, dude, she wants to remain together, and he’s like, yeah, and Tony is like, and you told me you guys are still having sex, even though you’re in the middle of a divorce.

And he’s like, yes, and he’s like, so everything’s good between you. Besides the fact you’re getting a divorce and the guy’s like, Yep. And Tony Robbins is like, What’s the problem? He’s like, What’s the problem, man? He’s like, You’re still having sex. You guys still go out to dinner. You guys are still civil with each other. You guys still love each other. You still hang out. Except she just doesn’t want the official title of marriage. Like, you’re still basically married, except for the fact that she wants a different title and she wants to live separately so she can have her own unique space.

But you still see each other all the time. And the guy’s like, oh, I didn’t realize that. And he’s like, yeah, he’s like, you have basically the same relationship. Except now you have your own space in your own place. She has her own space in her own place. But otherwise your relationship hasn’t changed much, has it? And the guy’s like, no, I didn’t think about it like that. I didn’t recognize that. And so and Tony explained this as well. He’s like, yeah, there’s always other options that exist, and this is a different option.

You’re not on paper. You guys aren’t a couple, but who needs it to be on paper? He’s like, you guys otherwise have your same relationship, and things are fine. And so I thought that was a really great example in the relationship space. And so the same is true in your business. So let me give you guys a cool example. Is anybody up for a cool example? Cool. Cool. So recently one of our clients went ahead and posted on social media. They have a solid following in their space and their niche.

And they made a post. And the post didn’t get much engagement, right? Not what they were hoping for. They were hoping for a lot of engagement and reaction for this new offer and program they have. And the post didn’t get a lot of engagement. And so they came to me and they’re like, you know, what do I do, normally post? And it’s a home run, like, 2030 people. Comments I have all these people reaching out to me and direct message me, and it’s so easy. And what do I do?

I did my post like, I normally do, and it didn’t land. And so they were kind of in panic mode. But I was like, oh, that was just one post. I was like, that’s the one thing with organic marketing is that it fluctuates, right? Based on the time of day you post, it could be the day of the week. It could be maybe you’re posting when somebody else big in your industry is running some type of live webinar, and they captured the audience’s attention momentarily. There’s just so many factors sometimes posts don’t get a lot of reaction initially.

And then all of a sudden, the next day, they blow up. There’s just so many different factors. And so I just like, oh, no worries. It’s always a marketing campaign. I never call it a launch. I don’t like that word launch, and I don’t like launches. They are stressful, and they create what I like to call a roller coaster revenue where you have a bunch of revenue, and then it drops down. And so it’s always a marketing campaign. It’s a consistency thing. So it’s just like, oh, no worries.

Mix some other content in there. And then I was like, I gave them a different post template to use. I was like, then use these five other post templates here that we have already pre written. I was like, they’re proven to work. Just drip these out afterwards. They’re going to be a little bit more direct and people will understand your offer better if you use this format in which you present to your offer. So they did that. And then all of a sudden, they got the engagement.

They were looking for the demand they were looking for, and they signed a bunch of clients, and they were happy. So it’s one of those things where it’s like, what is the rule of 34? What other three to four options do I have? All right, you post and nobody responds. You have option number one. It didn’t work. I’m giving up. I’m upset. I’m stressed out. I’m anxious, right? That’s an option. You can do that or you can option number. You can say, okay, well, that one didn’t work.

I’m gonna try again in a different style and a different format of a post. That’s a different option. And yet there’s still several other options that exist. I’m going to go partner with another coach and have them promote this new program and offer, and I will give them a Commission for any sales. There’s so many options that exist, like in this scenario off the top of my head, there’s ten different things we could do in this scenario. And so it’s not even a rule of 34, like the rule of, like, ten X, because I see ten other things that could happen in this scenario to make this successful.

And that’s what we do with all of our clients. It’s just again, because I’m a grandpa old in this industry 13 years online. I’ve seen everything just about that. There it is. So for me, it’s very simple. And I’m smiling on laughing because I remember I used to freak out over little things as well, and not to say it’s a little thing. It’s a big thing for them in their business, their livelihood. But in retrospect, it really is a little thing because there’s so many other solutions to it.

And just to top this off, here’s one more life example. We ordered some furniture recently and from Amazon, and I put it together, and I was like, oh, crap, the pieces are wrong because one of the pieces wasn’t connecting to the other piece correctly. And so for a moment I got frustrated, and I was like, I can’t believe they manufactured this wrong because the thing was already three force assembled. But this one crucial leg was not connecting. And I was like, it would not connect.

And I was like, trying to force it into connect. The last piece that had to go in to make everything stable. And I was for a moment I got frustrated. And then I just sat for a moment and I was like, no rule 34. I was like, There has to be another way, like, something must be wrong.

Now it turns out I had the piece.

I was trying to make the piece work, and it was backwards. I need to flip it upside down and just turn it the other way inside out. And then it was going to fit correctly. But I was just looking at it wrong and trying to connect it wrong. And therefore it didn’t fit. So flip it upside down and then flip it around inside out, and it was facing the right direction now and now all of a sudden it was manufactured correctly. I was like, the holes don’t even line up.

The holes didn’t line up because it needed to be turned the other way and flipped upside down. Right. Luckily, I didn’t lose my cool there and figure that one out fairly quickly. But that is the rule of 34. Guys, whatever is going on in your business in your life, there are options for you, but you need to give your brain your brain is so infinitely powerful. So here’s the process to using the rule of 3-4. It’s simple. You first need to ask yourself the rhetorical question.

What other potential solutions are there? All right, if you don’t ask yourself that question, your brain will not come up with additional solutions, because if I ask you what color is the guy? What color is your shirt? What color are your shoes? What kind of car do you drive? Are you married? Are you single? How much money is in your bank account? Where’s the next place you want to travel to? What’s your mom’s name? What’s your son’s name? Anything else? What’s your favorite restaurant?What’s your favorite type of food?

You guys didn’t have an option there, but to answer all ten of those questions, when you present a question to yourself or to anybody else, they have to process it. They might not answer it verbally, but they have to at least process that information. So when you’re speaking with somebody and I go, hey, are you guys paying attention right now? I just re grabbed your attention. If you were daydreaming a moment while you’re driving or while you’re working out, hey, what are you doing right now?

You had to answer that question in your head. So the brain has to answer questions because it’s a computing system. It loves to follow up, figure out puzzles. And so all you have to do when you’re in a situation where you don’t know the answer or you have a problem in front of you is ask yourself, what three to four other solutions potentially exist. Once you ask yourself that question, your brain will start computing. Oh, you know, try flipping the leg of this piece of furniture upside down.

Maybe it’s upside down. I flipped it upside down and still didn’t work. Maybe try rotating it so that’s inside out and facing the other direction. Now it connects and works. Ask yourself those questions, guys. You can often problem solve a lot of different things, and of course, that’s why a mentor is super helpful as well is because they will know how to do that, and they will have the different lens and angle and perspective and experience to help you get through the more difficult problems and solutions, because you will be able to solve small problems by asking yourself and by implementing the Rule of 3-4.

But bigger problems, complex problems, not all the time because your brain, you don’t know what you don’t know. And so your brain doesn’t know that those other solutions exist. The furniture one very simple growing your business. You might not know that there’s a lot of creative ways to land clients. You only know what you know. Hey, I can post on social media and get clients. I can post in my Facebook group, but you don’t know all the other ways to get clients that exist out there because you’ve never done it before.

It’s not even part of your consciousness, but your mentor will be like, oh, yeah, you can use email. You can do this, you can do this, you can do this. You can do this. But you’re not privy to that because you’re not aware of that being an option. So when you ask yourself that question, that solution doesn’t exist to you yet, which is why we always got to keep growing and learning so that we have more input and more experience to solve more of our problems ourself. And otherwise the Rule 3-4 just become stronger because you have that experience and your brain can access those additional options there that exist.

So hope that was helpful.

Guys, remember that’s called the Rule of 3-4. I hope you guys are having an amazing day.

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